Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Attachment in Psychotherapy
Yes, I finally finished another book. It is hard for me to look at my nightstand or my VisualBookShelf on Facebook and see books I have yet to finish. I would love to be able to sit down and read a book cover to cover, like I was able to pre-children; I do not consider myself to have read a book unless I have read all the forewords, prologues, and endnotes. However, in this state of life, the variety of books reflects all the different needs and constraints I experience. Sometimes I need something spiritually uplifting, (which is usually, interestingly enough, very grounding,) or sometimes I need a voyeuristic look into someone's juicy vignette of experience, or just something cold and intellectual when I've been chasing young children all day. I need something I can read that is clear and succinct when I have just five minutes of respite or something that is indulgently involved when I have an unadulterated evening of quiet. (And as you might have been able to guess, the latter is quite rare...) Aaaah, books.
So, on to this notch in my bedpost: What I liked about this book is that it appealed to both the aspiring professional in me and the sometimes wary, sometimes convicted therapy patient. It is a book of both pleasure and business.
Unfortunately, as usual, I don't have time to really parse the material for the particularly powerful episodes in the writer's therapeutic experience or the solid clinical analyses that further the work of attachment theory in psychotherapy, despite every other sentence being covered in highlighter! Just know they exist!! I will end with the final paragraph of the book which sums up why this topic is even important (p 338):
"Through fostering these skills, psychotherapy when it is effective yields a new experience of security that can benefit every patient. But in relation to patients who have (or will have) children, the contribution of the therapist may well go much further, for it has the potential to break the chain of disadvantage that tends to burden each successive generation with the insecurity and trauma of the generations that have come before."